I was going to do a serious post about Mortality but a favorite song popped up and I changed my word to More. It was in the early 90s when I first heard this song and my youngest was in her early teens. I’d never heard it before but loved it and asked her who sang it. She laughed, telling me I wasn’t going to like it because a hard rock/metal band sang it. She was wrong. I loved the song so much, I bought it and still often listen to it.
The song was “More Than Words” by Extreme. It has a haunting acoustic sound. You can read the lyrics here.
Now, just a few thoughts on the other M word, mortality. I will be 78 this year and my mortality weighs heavy on me. I am the oldest in my family. My mother died in her early 60s and my father in his early 70s. Realistically, I’d love to live to 100. Then I realize that is only twenty-two years away. If I look at my life in decades, those twenty years will pass very quickly.
Am I depressed about this? Not really, although there is still a lot I’d like to do. Am I worried about this? Again, not really since my health is still good (I just need to prevent any big falls due to my osteoporosis). Am I happy about this? Um, not really. I’d love to think I had another forty years but I know that’s not realistic.
So I will continue to do things that make me happy. I will continue to do things to make my hubby happy. I will continue to do things that will hopefully prolong my life. But this is one of the reasons we are working on the house this year instead of cruising. We know at some point there will probably be an independent/assisted living facility in our future (together or as a surviving spouse). But we want to stay in the house as long as we can. So we will continue improving it to make it even more comfortable for the years we have left here.
My A-Z this year are random thoughts, ideas, and whatever pops into my mind for the letter of the day. As in previous years, I will keep it short and sweet.
Till next time!
I had heard of this song and I had loved this song – it’s those ballads just makes you feel. So it might depress me to hear sometimes since I’m single but it makes the bad days seems less bad.
It’s scary to think of your own end or the people around you. I prefer to just carry on without thinking about it – makes life easier.
Have a lovely day.
Hugs!!!!
I love listening to the radio channel that plays 80s and 90s music, so I smiled when I saw the song title, “More than Words.”
As for mortality, it’s so heavy a thought. I lost three parents between the summer of 2020 and 2021. My dad was the oldest at 67, which seems too young. I try not to think about it and live in the now, enjoying the time I’m in.
Happy Tuesday, DB.
Stopping in from A-to-Z: https://brewingcoffeetwistingwordsbreakingpencils.ca/2025/04/15/memories-of-reading/
Good for you, I’m trying to do the same. Savor every day!
After losing my guy younger than we expected, it has made me way more conscious of the time remaining. I’m trying to focus on what I’d like to do as my body heals from the Covid vaccines and the fall down a flight of stairs. I’m way better, but not the way I was yet. Almost there. I want to fit more in my days.
It is definitely a wake up call. Hugs!!!
More Than Words was a favorite of my mom when it came out. She played it on repeat for what felt like forever 😉
My mom died at 53. My Biological father at 43. Both deaths could have been avoided, though neither was intended. A good friend of ours was diagnosed with Stage 4 Cancer 10 years ago at 37 and given a 5% chance of living 6 months. She is facing her final days now, but she fought like hell and claimed another decade full of love and adventure in spite of it all. Not a day goes by that I am not mindful of the blessing of every moment of each day. We are only guaranteed this moment but I wish you and I and everyone we love as many future moments as possible.
https://boldandqueer.com/category/2025-a-to-z-challenge/
I agree, many future moments for us, please!
Pretty song and great harmony going on there. You seem to be accepting of whatever comes your way, which is a healthy perspective, imo.
I try to look at the positive side. If I were to die now, I would know I have enjoyed life as fully as I could.
🙂 <3
I almost wrote about Metal for my M word! But I thought it might be cheesy to be thankful for metal music, though it’s totally true. It’s my favorite genre, aside from yacht rock.
See, you should have!
I do love that song. The duo has incredible voices that blend well together. Thank you for your honesty. It sounds like you have done so much and continue to fill your days. I think that’s important, to live well for the time we have.
Living well is SO important and when we are younger it often seems we are in too much of a rush to remember that.
Oh my gosh, I had the biggest crush on Nuno Bettencourt!!
– Allison
https://lightningflashwriting.blogspot.com/
Awwww….
I’ve pondered mortality my entire life. It began with the death of my adoptive father at age 2. And then my mother married a widower who had lost his wife. As if death or dying was following me.
My grandparents are gone, my parents are gone. I’ve lost so many people including two siblings. But I do have new biological relatives that I have just met.
It turns out that I have an 83-year-old father. That gives me a teeny bit of hope that there is some longevity in my favor. My mother passed at 62 her sister at 60. And their mom, my grandmother made it to 70. I was just telling my coworker when I turn 71, I’m gonna have a big off cycle party.
What an interesting family history! We have heard rumors we might have half-siblings (way older than us so probably not alive now), but haven’t been able to track anything in Ancestry.com. At some point I need to start paying for it again and dig deeper. Sending huge hugs your way (and if you’re on FB, you need to send me a friend request, love to keep in touch.